Ok all, a much anticipated update to my LJ.
I was speaking with jello_queen today about the situation I’m having with one of my friends. I believe I’ve journaled about this before so there is no need for the back story. At this point, i’m almost thinking of changing the name of my journal to “Why are tlvsnjunkie’s friends so crappy?” or “A day in the life of tlvsnjunkie and his crappy ass friends.” Something like that. On to the update!
So, yesterday was the first day of the FIFA World Cup which only comes around every 4 years. I am a soccer addict when the World Cup rolls around. The games are way more exciting than what I normally get to see on TV here in the states. As you probably know, I am a huge sports fan. I can stand to watch almost any competitive team sport on TV. Now, I get a semi invite to attend river tubing from this friend that has cut me out of their life for the past month or two. I say semi invite because… well… here it is:
If you don’t go out tonight and binge, I’m going tubing in the morning, early.
Yup, that was it. So, I take that to mean that he wants to hang out, wants me to go tubing with him tomorrow morning. I respond to this with a “how early is early” and get the response “7.30 or so.” I get this email at about 10am and I seriously consider the offer (or lack there of). I come to the conclusion that I’d rather sleep in since I only get 2 of these wonderful sleep in days a week. I decide to hold off replying stating that I’m not going to make it until I’m absolutely positive that I don’t want to go. Towards the end of the day, I am talking with the guy from Austria that works at our office. I tell him how excited I am about the England game the next day. I mention how I’m glad it’s in the afternoon to which he corrects me by saying “Oh no! The England game is at 6am here!” CRAP. So that settles it in my mind, I can’t go with this guy because I have to watch the game at 6am! At 4.30pm on Friday I send my friend an email telling him the following:
I won’t be able to make tubing tomorrow. Maybe next time though!
I get a response to this email that equates me to another mutual friend we have who is always “mysterious” with her plans and never tells us anything about what she does when she declines our invites. I figure, ok, that’s cool. He’s just trying to be funny. It’s all good.
FAST FORWARD TO SATURDAY
This friend returns from his trip to the river and gets on AIM and messages me the following:
Him> why didn’t you respond to my email?
me> I’m not sure what sort of response you’re looking for?
Him> Is that the sort of communication you’d expect to come from me? Would you be ok with that?
me> I’m not sure what you mean? You didn’t ask a question in that email so I’m not sure what I’m supposed to respond to. If you want to know what plans I had that kept me from tubing, you can ask. The email you sent stated an opinion you had of me, which is cool.
Him> Thanks for reminding me why I hate talking to you, I had temporarily forgotten.
me> ok.
me> I’m glad I coudl help.
me> Since you seem to need to know what my plans were that kept me from tubing, they were watching England vs Paraguay at 6am on ABC.
(10 mins later)
Him> wow, that’s even worse than I imagined – was that not scheduled at 11 yesterday?
Him> or were you waiting for something better to come long and that was the best thing you could come up with
“Him” signed off at Sat Jun 10 14:30:38 2006.
So, as you can see, he signed off before I could respond. Anyway, I discussed it with jello_queen and she tells me that it seems as though he believes that I was trying to make an excuse not to hang out with him. So, going on the advice of others, I send an email response to this IM message that states the following:
I was not trying to find an excuse not to hang out with you, I just found out late in the day tht the England game was on at 6am vs the afternoon start time that I had assumed it was going to be.
That’s where it stands.
See! My friends are totally awesome. I’ll keep you posted on the situation, if I get any sort of response to my email, you’ll find out about it here. I really am planning on posting the drama on this site because I find it amusing.
Until later people!
You know, I think you are being very gracious to this person, since they didn’t officially invite you to go tubing, but that they were going tubing and were informing you. So for you to decline is perfectly ok and you know what? If they were really your friend they would know about your addiction to sports and the World Cup and could be understanding. It seems like they are the ones who trying to find ways not be your friend.
I am sorry this person sucks so much. I have already mentally stabbed them.
I can also tell you from personal experience that the time when I let one of my friends who was like this go, it was one of the happiest and free-est moments of my life. I was finally free of their emotional baggage and I felt like I could act like myself again. I hope that, even though you share mutual friends, that you will be able to have this moment of peace and freedom as well.
Thanks for the advice and words of wisdom. It sucks real bad but I guess that’s life. Oh, there will be a quick update soon, I’m sure of it.